Those were my mom's words when I had my first serious boyfriend. From then on, I have always kept that in mind. And it's good. I told myself that I would never rely on anyone if I want or I need something. I would do it myself. I would do what I can and I would do what I should. I would never expect anything from anyone to avoid being disappointed. I will try to be not too complacent for it might take away the thrill. I won't be someone who holds one back. And I guess I've been always like that. I like it. As much as I love my freedom, I'd like my partner to be free too.
 
Freedom is such a crucial word yet one of the basic and fundamental ingredients to make a relationship work. No man is an island. We need people in our lives and people need us. We may not need someone to complete us, but within, we need someone to make us "feel" complete and  needed. The sense of belonging to someone gives us the push to live not just for ourselves but for others as well.
 
We need to have obligations to keep us rooted. We need responsibilities to become firmly established. We need to commit ourselves to make life more worth living. We need a reason for our existence.  
 
Give and take. It's not an option whether one should ONLY give and never receive or one should be too complacent being the recipient all the time. It's give and take. I believe in compromise. If one have something to share, share it. And if one is at the receiving end, be thankful. And I am not just referring to any material thing. Learn to appreciate the person by giving too. Give thanks, make that person happy in any way you can.
 
I believe in love. Something that makes you forget about yourself because you're too happy being with someone. Something that makes you think of what good you could give to that someone than think of the good it could give you. You become secondary. His happiness is your happiness. It's not bad. Especially when that love and affection is being reciprocated.
 
But do not put responsibility to other people. You are accountable to yourself and yourself alone. Do not let other people work for you. Do what you can, seek help only if you really need to. Do not expect other people to take care of you, but learn to be grateful when people care for you. Do not expect people to love you, but if they do, love them in return. Love with all your heart but be guarded by your wisdom. Yes, fall in love but fall with grace (wear your parachute-- at least the fall won't be too hard). Do not just trust your life on fate, work on it. Work hard on it. Again, do not be a liability. Be an asset.

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